Your situation is VERY NEW. Right now there is no way your Dad---as wise as he may be--or anyone else, for that matter, can possibly know what the future holds as far as your H's actions.
The only way you can be 100% sure he's not coming home, is if YOU make up your mind that you will not let him come back.
And that's the decision you have to make, whether or not you'd be willing to take him back after he stops carrying on...
A lot of people assume that in cases such as this, you should just cut your losses and dump him, divorce him, the sooner the better. They're not comfortable with the uncertainty and it sure isn't easy.
But it's your M, you have kids together... so there's a lot to lose.
Don't be in such a hurry to write him off for good at this point, unless that's what you want.
I'm pulling for you!
--GG
Me 54 Him 63 M 23 T 29 0 Kids Funny Farm of Rescues 12/12 OW-- 5/13 ILYBINILWY: A denied 9/13 Proof OW: ENDED 2/14 Got D papers on my BD I kicked him out for my sanity 9/14 He wants to "talk"?
