^^^ I was thinking the same thing. You have written paragraphs complaining about all the things your wife is doing wrong...and how you are the perfect husband (even she says so, you say!)
So... what would you like us to say? We can't control your wife... and neither can you. Do you want us to agree with you about how awful she is and give you permission to leave her? No one is stopping you.
I haven't heard much about what you think is your role in this... and you are the only thing you can control. And when you get advice or suggestions for what YOU might need to work on, you get defensive and debate every point.
What kind of feedback are you looking for? Solutions, or just empathy?
