Well, a lot has happened. On Saturday h came over still pretending he wanted to come home. I had found out he has another bank account and has been diverting a good portion of his paycheck as well as other monies. So when he got here on Saturday for our "date" I called him out on it. He admitted it and danced around why the need to do that. Then I pushed for more, why he couldn't come home but kept saying he wanted to. Was sitting there telling d15 he was coming home. Then he asked me to come outside and talk.
We all know what's coming, right - yep, the ow is now in the picture and he's living with her. I won't go into the details of that conversation but to sum it up he said he still loves me and wants to come home but he screwed up and how could I ever forgive him. I got very mad. I told him the only option for me was for him to tell ow to f off and pack his stuff and come home right now. He just sat there. I asked him again if he wanted to come home and he said yes and I said what are you going to do. He finally looks at me and says he wants a divorce. I said you got it.
He left and I texted him about an hour later with my lawyers info and told him to deal with him from now on and to call him and let him know the address of where he wished to be served. He didn't know I had retained a lawyer when this first started.
A little while later he's blowing up my phone and I don't answer. I was done. Then our d28 calls me and tells me she wants to give me a heads up. Her dad had called her and said his stuff was packed and in his truck and he was headed home, but I wouldn't answer the phone and he doesn't know if I'll take him back. During this he has texted me to please let him come home, he's sorry, he'll do whatever it takes, it's what he wanted to say when he was here but he's stupid. (His words)
This all took less than 3 hours - he lives almost 2 hours away. He was home within 4 hours after he left.
Things are pretty hard and awkward and he is still crazy. So we will see how this goes. It's baby steps right now and there is no trust. I don't know if he'll stay but he brought everything with him, including his soap and toothpaste. (How weird is that).
