Personally Ox, I would only take advice from people who have actually saved their marriages. Or those who are warning you against the same mistakes that lead to their divorce.

Seems like a no-brainer. I made the same mistake of soaking up any advice that seemed vauguely relevant to my situation.You'll just come across as a mess

Suspected EA: Feb 2013
Bomb drop: Mid March 2013
Separation: Mid April 2013
(I fought for marriage)
Filed for Divorce: April 2014
Accidental Exposure of affair: June 2014