I know you pretty well, I think. You feel like you have to make this all encompassing decision about whether you are done or not, standing or not, etc.
While it may feel helpful to try to figure it all out, the truth is, all you have to do right now is allow yourself to feel it.
No need to make a stand. No need to label it. Just feel the feelings - all of them. They are going to come around and flip back and up and over again. That's the way it should be.
At the end of the day, she is saying what she has been for the most part. You have cycled through all of this before. You will again. More quickly this time.
You are right about this. You do need to hear her. Not for her, for you. Not to help you make a decision one way or the other, but, because it is what's best.
She needs to do this. You need to let her. For her. For you.
No one knows what the future holds. That's true. What I hope it holds for you is that you can embrace who you are. Accept that you did the very best you could and so did she.
Be good with the fact that it all mattered. To you...to your kids...and to her.
You may not see all of that immediately, but, you will one day.
T, I hurt for you, my friend. But I am also glad that this may allow you to move to the next part. Whatever that may be.
You have walked this with courage and strength and honor, without a doubt. That matters, too.
Take some time to sit with all that you feel. Help your kids get grounded. Take care of you, though, T. I mean really take care of you. Its ok to do that, ya know?
You are pretty freakin amazing. I am, as always, rooting you on, praying for you and wishing you all good things.
