I am in the process of getting a new one for myself. I talked with my lawyer and he feels that I need more than just someone who listens to me. he recommends I find someone who has more experience with substance abuse and helping people associated with a substance abuser. I am looking for some with this experience who is solutions based.
My lawyer sent me the final draft of the agreement before it goes to her attorney. he added a few changes to it that I requested. One is to give us the ability to modify the length of visitation without going back to court. I also extended the original length a bit longer to include the whole day on Sunday. My lawyer added an additional requirement for her to attend AA at least once a week.
I told him to go ahead and send it. My feeling is they will come back with requested changes. Then the back and forth really begins as my lawyer also filed for a date in the court which will probably be in about two weeks.
I agree with the statement that boundary less people get angry about boundaries. My wife also struggled with simple boundaries like call if you are going to be late. I can't imagine how she will react to stronger ones.
Twisting on Life's Rope Me53 W53 M20 D21 D19 D16 BD 2-2013 D final 1-2015 _________________________ "Dream about tomorrow, Live for today, Learn from yesterday"
