Well it's probably too late, but I've gotta try

[pilot]

You do not have to be an ahole. Your W is still seriously confused. Now she is probably in panic mode because your D is so close at hand, and now she realizes that the grass is anything BUT green with OM. You are smart to not let her just jump right back to you. Take it slow. She probably feels pressure to speed things up with you. Do not let the 3 weeks till your D is final change anything you are doing. Remember, even if you D, you can still R. Make sure that her wanting to be with you is because of you, and not because she is just scared.

Best of luck to you!