I think I needed that. It's like a pressure cooker. If you don't blow off steam, you'll explode.
I envy how easy it has been for you to detach so quickly. I wish that was something I could do better at.
Believe me it was not easy. It was the hardest thing I have done up till now. What probably helped more than anything was our S being 4 hours apart. Out of sight really helps. Out of mind takes effort. I was also emotionally exhausted by the time our S began. Living in the same house having to sit at home knowing where my W was with OM took so much out of me that I was on empty...almost a shell of a person. GAL has helped rebuilt my spirits, 180s are helping me improve my future, but detaching is what gets me through the days. It does take effort to not think about my W. There are plenty of times and opportunities where I can dwell on things but I force myself into distractions, and in no time the feelings pass.
Being detached has allowed me to be in high spirits, happy, funny, and basically my best foot forward during the times we have face to face contact. And she definitely has taken notice and upped her contact with me. I know contact with you two is tough because you do not have kids or any "reason" you have to maintain contact. So you probably have anxiety about when the next time you will interact. I feel for you on that. I know that every day I will either receive a text asking to Facetime with the kids, or I will have to send one asking. I also know the days I will see her when we swap kids. That does help a bit.
Keep it up, and give the light hearted text a shot and see what happens. No more than one every few days though IMO. If she does not reply, then send one like "OMG I just found out I have herpes" She will probably reply. haha
Me: 42 W: 32 Married 7 years together 8.5 S1: 7 S2:7 Bomb #1: 09-16-13 Recon #1: 11/13 A discovered 04-03-2014 W filed D 05-19-14 but never served me I filed D 12-02-2014 S 05-31-14 Divorced 5-19-16
