Dealing with an ongoing affair

[PeterV2]

I asked her today if she made any decision about attending the MC with me next Monday. She said no although she felt that she was disappointing me again. I reiterated that I was just asking, giving her the opportunity only if she wanted, and not to do it to please me – I was going anyway. Again I pointed out that that type of behaviour is not going to happen anymore. She is not to do anything just to please me – she’s only to do things that she wants to do. She said that she needed to learn how to do that. I said yes, we both need to learn how to stop that pattern of behaviour.