I'm going to go out on a limb here and say that I don't think your h and gf really want to spend a great deal of time around the boys now. Why? Intervenes on their time. They are on that euphoric, love song stage. Kids kind of put a damper on that Those feelings may not last forever, but that's my instinct right now.
The reality is you can't keep them from being around her forever. However, right now, I don't think that is a *big* issue.
Last edited by Georgiabelle; 07/01/1407:26 PM.
3 kids BD 12/15/13 (IDKIILY. ) Rope dropped Cirque du Soleil style D final 9-9-14 "Some people are born on 3rd base and go through life thinking they hit a triple." Barry Switzer
No I have not. I will have to set up another consultation (250/pop )
Thats why I suggest you first call your other choices.... ask them for a break on the 250, as you are reconsidering your choice. Stress that you will be brief, and would even entertain doing over the phone (provided you WILL be brief, and do it over the phone).... Or offer to take them to lunch (I never met a L who didn't want a "free lunch").
Originally Posted By: T0324
So you think I am right by not having them around her and him right now? Peolle are making me question my decision
I am not talking about AFTER the D (then he is free to take the kids to a swingers camp out if he wants), but during the D... it is simply improper to expose the kids to a new BF/GF.
Thats why it is stunning to me that your L has not nipped this in the bud.
***Again, IANAL.... but even simply a call to H's attorney saying "He should not be exposing the kids to his new girlfriend during the divorce, will he concede this?, or will you be forcing us to have a hearing with Judge ____"?
Me: 43 M: 10y S:15 ILYBINILWY 2/18/13 W moved out 2/18/13 Filed for D: 2/17/13 Got DB: 2/20/13 Got DR: 2/23/13 180 & LRT Began: 2/25/13 D Final Dec '13
I'm about to text H that I know everything about him and Ow
He showed up to the house unannounced tonight while I was at work and he and my dad took the boys to dinner together and to the park.
After all the sh!t my dad says about him and after all the things he publicly said about my dad.
He can't have his cake and eat it too. I am really having a breakdown. I can't hold it together. I feel like everything is roses and sunshine for him. He is sleeping with a teenager. When is anyone going to stand up for me. I just don't get it
Yeah I agree. You shouldnt do that. Your H knows what he said is wrong and what is doing is wrong. All you will do is alienate him from your family and push him closer to the OW. It is not all roses and sunshine for him either. I guarantee you that there are plenty of things about you that he wishes she had.
M:33 W:30 T:10 M:2 B/D: 5/27/14 S: 5/28/14 Wife moved back in 7/18/14
I'm sorry guys I know I sound irrational but I am just having a very bad night. I am so overwhelmed with everything in my life and I just wish this wasn't happening. I want the H back that I had. I just want all of this to stop v
I want to feel like someone sticks up for me for what he's doing to the boys and I.
I can't imagine he can go to dinner and go to the park with them like nothing is wrong. It is not a good thing as far as for him and I. It is a good thing for him my dad yelled at me that I need to get ahold of myself and accept that after almost 5 months he's never coming home. It's so hard to hear.
It hurts so much that he can't even answer the phone the one time I called. He can't celebrate our sons graduating 1st grade even just by meeting us somewhere but he can ride in the same car with my dad.
It really hurts. It hurts that I mean nothing. That the last 9 years mean nothing. That we can't even show the boys that we can be just parents together.
We all have bad days. Most of my days are bad. I completely understand being overwhelmed by that feeling that you are losing everything in your life that matters. We all feel your pain.
I dont think that you need to accept that he is never coming home. You might accept that it is POSSIBLE that he will not come home. The odds are in your favor here though just based on OW age. Im close to the same age as your H and I would not be able to deal with an 18 y/o for long. It might be alot of fun for sex for a minute but then all the dumb sh!t that a teenager has going on would creep in. Your dad is just trying to get you to detach. Hope your night gets better.
M:33 W:30 T:10 M:2 B/D: 5/27/14 S: 5/28/14 Wife moved back in 7/18/14
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Those feelings may not last forever, but that's my instinct right now.