I'm with you in that I would also be resentful and concerned if I was the one always *initiating* getting together, but being the one to plan *what* we do doesn't really bother me. I hope that helps clarify. Maybe there's something more here that I need to think about but I feel like I'm struggling to see it, especially since he has never expressed dissatisfaction in this aspect of our relationship.
I would think this will be an excellent topic to discuss with H and get his thoughts about this. You might be surprised to hear that he may have issues with this and is afraid to broach the topic out of fear that he'll upset you.
Just maybe...maybe...he'll say that he'd like to share some of the planning responsibility and having a voice in this process.
Approach this discussion with an open-mind and not try to counter him with "but" or counterpoints.
