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[mdu]

Hmmm...ok, let me try to drill into this planning thing some more.

H and I have had essentially 5 dates thus far (3 lunches, 1 dinner and the beach visit the other day). He initiated all the 3 lunches, I initiated and planned the dinner out and then you know how the beach visit played: I reached out to him to basically say 'hope your enjoying your day' and then HE invited me to the beach. So the initiating has definitely been more tipped towards him. It's a 4/5 ratio to be exact ;-)

Now the planning of specifically *what* we will do when we get together, that is often me. So he'll invite me to lunch and then say 'where do you want to go?' I'll make suggestions or if I say 'where do you want to go' he'll say 'wherever you want is fine with me'. I guess *maybe* this bothers him, but honestly he really has never complained about it. He knows I'm a planner and likely have a million different ideas of things to do and places to go. And as I mentioned, I think initially it was something that attracted him and if I do say 'can you just decide this time' he will.

I'm with you in that I would also be resentful and concerned if I was the one always *initiating* getting together, but being the one to plan *what* we do doesn't really bother me. I hope that helps clarify. Maybe there's something more here that I need to think about but I feel like I'm struggling to see it, especially since he has never expressed dissatisfaction in this aspect of our relationship.

I will think about it some more, thanks again for your feedback.