I get it, I've been following the other stiches, I look at this as just something I need to do either way. Going to play it by ear. She's stubborn and she knows the deal. More patience on my part. I am a bit concerned about her veiled threat of it will be over but I don't know when, but she does know I can be there for her under certain conditions. I also think it's obvious that I am open to R under certain conditions. She has a lot of work to do. As do I. Thanks again everyone for all the support.