Sadly, I don't think it's uncommon. A couple of weeks ago my older 2 were disturbed to see h in the large garbage can outside looking for.....no one knows. These are the kind of behaviors too that make your kids question what's happening. He doesn't live there anymore but still rifles through drawers.
Paranoia can be very high amongst the MLCer. I think someone posted on your thread earlier that being ugly or exposing a MLCer only strengthens their resolve. While I do agree with that (because they want validation it's you and not them), I always suggest being kind to everyone. One challenge with one in MLC is that saying nothing can make them angry. Saying hello can make them angry. Being nice can upset them. You just focus on detaching and remain cordial and business like. It's also important to remember that your h should not be coddled because he's in crisis. Showing empathy- yes. However, he is not a child and is still responsible for his actions.
You are doing so well for early in your sitch!
Last edited by Georgiabelle; 07/01/1405:55 PM.
3 kids BD 12/15/13 (IDKIILY. ) Rope dropped Cirque du Soleil style D final 9-9-14 "Some people are born on 3rd base and go through life thinking they hit a triple." Barry Switzer
