In other words, where's the "balance of power" in your relationship with your H? Maybe he wants a little bit back. Is that possible? But perhaps you keep thinking he likes your "planning" (controlling) nature?
M: 40 H: 44 Married 14 years S11 & D6; D20 & D19 from previous M 2BDs/PAs, 8 years apart Piecing: April 2014