Trying to stay afloat

[Mat]

One thing that I feel I can be pretty happy with myself about, is that I managed to find people from whom I could get comfort, and the chance to talk and think about other things. It's one thing to will yourself to not feel certain things, and start detaching more effectively, but if you can get some help from a safe place, even better.

For instance, I went to the world's biggest music festival (I think) with a friend that I hadn't had much contact with for YEARS. We hardly talked about the breakup. I just downloaded a bit of my story on people of the group when they asked about what my wife was up to during the weekend. But other than that, just fun (OK I did have a breakdown on my own on the first day, but there was no one else there and I made the mistake of having a few beers while watching a couple of bands that turned out to be crappy - frustration got the better of me).

Anyway, this isn't a boast or anything, just something to illustrate how old friends can surprise you. Some will be awkward or aloof, but I wouldn't hesitate to reach out for a chat, even if they're people you don't see that much anymore. I was floored at the support I got, and I don't think I'm that exceptional.

After all, we are all too busy to keep up with people, and we all resent it. Even if they're married; who knows if a good buddy won't use you as a reason to go on a boys' trip?

Just thoughts, about something that's really working for me (so far). I still have plenty of work to do on my own, by myself, but I have plenty of time for that too.

Hang in there man