Possilble WAW

[PeterV2]

Yeah, Dawgy, she may be happier with you for not talking about the A or OM but I assure you that she's being torn up inside, even more so that you're not giving her ammo to justify her leaving. If you were to pursue, freak out or threaten her with exposure of the A that would give her ample reason to justify her leaving you for the OM. But Since you're being calm, cool and collected, being the H only a fool would leave, she is very conflicted. This is a good thing. She needs to wake up & smell the coffee but in her PEA induced state she's not thinking clearly. It may take a while until the chemicals in her brain subside enough for her to see the light. That's why you have to be patient and wait it out. It's like if you broke your leg you wouldn't go running a marathon the next day. You would need to let the healing happen even though you may be itching to run you have to stay still. This will take time. Use that time to learn how you got here and how to make yourself the best man you can be.

I feel like ive gained alittle control back because it seems the threat of leaving was just that , a threat . However I dont want to abuse my new power so I have to be careful , right ?

The only control you can gain is self-control and that you have done with some success. You cannot control her. Don't even try. That's not a healthy way to be in a relationship. Your new power is the power to control your own emotions and how to react to what she does. Yes, doing the 180 has the potential and often the result to change how she reacts, but the power and control is not over her, but over your own emotions and responses. Have you read DR?