So H's text to me on Friday was regarding a boat he is looking at purchasing in vacay spot. He asked if MY DAD would go look at it for him. I let him know that he's been busy working on his house but that I would ask. I did not ask any details about the cost or anything else. He gave me the number and told me a little bit about the boat. I said I would call my dad and that was it.

Sunday I texted H to let him know my dad looked at the boat but I couldn't really talk because I was at D12s game. (then I responded to his text when he texted back!) I told him he could call my dad for details. Exchanged a few texts about it and that was it. He texted me this morning to let me know that he talked to my dad and he was transferring $$ to our bank account up there and and my dad was going to call me with the outcome. I, for the first time, did not respond to his text. My dad called me this afternoon and he has delivered the boat to our place there. I will probably text H tomorrow and let him know and make sure he transferred the $$ because my dad wrote a check.

So now I'm going to vent a little. A month ago he was concerned with me spending $$ to go see S19 graduate bootcamp, said I should reconsider, maybe not bring the girls. He's since spent probably around 2k on tools, clothes and toys for him while on vacation and now bought a boat (a good deal, and not a ton of $$ but not the point). I'm very frustrated, although I have not let him know that!! Seriously, we have a boat here that has not been in the water for 2-3 years and now needs work but he's going to buy a boat there...he'll be there for 10 days! Grrr! I'm hoping to get over my frustration before I see him...I'm sure I will because that is 2 weeks away.

Also, not that I think it's right to feel this way, but the fact that MY DAD is doing the leg work considering what's going on with us irritates me too. Of course my dad has no idea, and he really likes H. So...maybe it's a little crazy to be irritated by that but I'm allowed to feel the way I feel.

Now, if we weren't in this situation I would love to have a boat up there, but I'm not sure I'll even get to enjoy it. I haven't voiced any of my frustrations to him of course. My sister said I should act excited about the boat and ask when we are going for a ride! Is that acting as if?

I will say, not questioning it at all is a definite 180 for me.

I could really use some encouragement and some input on how to interact with H while on vacation.


Me-44 (45)
H- 50 (51)
M-'96

S-18(20)D-15(17)D-12(14)

BD Feb 2014 (he works overseas)
home Oct(sep rooms)
(EAs possible Pa's unconfirmed)
insists wants D through July 2015
no more talk of D since