Fear of the unknown is the worst in this sitch. Go home, unless you think there's a physical danger.
If she's truly like me, she'll want to know you want to be there, even if she doesn't want you there. Know what I mean? Lol ( that's the old me, I'm better at confrontation now).
If she loves you there's a chance at fixing this. You both are going to have to face it head on, though.
You already "know" how she's going to react, so expect the best and prepare for the worst, right? You can do this. Even if it gets heated, when things cool off there's still love in there.
Me: 39 H: 45 Second marriage for both H left 12/2013 M:4 T:5.5