Old dog seeks new trick

[Old Dog]

We've booked a holiday for a week in a month's time!

A few weeks ago W was talking about it and asked me if I'd liked to go. It was made clear it wouldn't be an opportunity to try and get back together. The plan was suspended due to ... well the situation.

Anyway, we spoke about it again at the weekend and I think she must feel we should be able to cope. I have been practising rules 12 & 13 (as well as the others) of Sandi2's rules to the best of my ability after all. I re-iterated that yes, I would like to be with my family on holiday.

How does this square with detaching though? I won't be chasing. I'll just try and make sure we all have a good time together.

I'm also taking the following week off and will take the boys off somewhere while she goes back to work. And then a couple of weeks later she's taking the boys off for a long weekend to see some friends. I can't go as I've been called up for jury service. Both of those are quite spacious. She booked the weekend before 'confessing' (her choice of word) to me. I'm disappointed not to go as well, I always enjoy visiting our friends, but I just said 'oh well can't be helped'.

I'm not reading anything into any of this other than all of us need a holiday and of course the kids will be expecting us all to go.

I find it hard to judge how to act. I say act, but I do feel as if I have lurched out of the stagnation and am concentrating on keeping a PMA so it's not act as in acting. I mean at the moment it is behaviour, positive self re-inforcement behaviour. Stand tall, head up, walk briskly, no slouching. Always look on the bright side of life. Don't let things like sitting in a queue on the motorway for hours on end, as happened today, get you down - and it didn't.

I guess all I can do is do my best. Judge the situation as it unfolds and keep working on myself. I'm the one who needs to change and I like the PMA I have been acheiving. I just don't want to overdo it (rule 22). I don't believe I am.

I'm also unsure how to 'do some activity that will help your R as well' as MrBond said above.

Time to crack on with DR for clues.