He blames me for divorce! Why is he so angry?

[woundedfool]

Okay latest update.

I've been doing the 180 and something different. Both have produce positive results albeit teeny tiny results but positive nonetheless.

From our previous discussion Thursday night I mentioned that there needed to be a mediator so our discussions would not get out of hand. I didn't think he was listening when I said that. I proceeded with my and that night and went out with friends. Friday afternoon he came home from work and asked my about my next IC appt...when it was. And then he went on to say that "I still don't understand where you're going with this but if you want a mediator then I will go with if you want me to." That night I went out again and came home around midnight. This peeved him.

So I got my appt reschedule to 8pm tonight. He calls me and says "Oh wow, it's been a rough day...8pm...that's kinda late...uh...I just don't want there to be any arguments... Essentially, he was backtracking. This annoyed me I continued with the okay responses until he finally said "I need you to say something other than okay." So I replied with " well, that's what the mediator is for--so there won't be any aruing." He then says "uh...I'll see what I can do...uh I just got to my desk and have been in meetings all day but I'll let you know." So...advice..:what is going on here and how do I approach this tactfully?

If it was me... I would tell him, "they were able to stay late to get me in for 8;00, if you can make it... great".