Dropping the rope

[woundedfool]

I don't believe EITHER of our faults in the M were worth him cheating with someone else whether it was EA or PA. I'm pretty sure it was EA until he left. I am totally wanting to listen to him and hear his grievances. However it is hard for me to want to do that while he has someone else in the picture that is so involved/controlling.

I did not equate one to the other. I knew she was in (at least) a EA, but that did not have anything to do with my speech, nor my reasons for giving her that speech.

I guess I just believe people deserve a chance to make things right and people deserve to know something is wrong instead of discussing it with other people. He felt there was no point in talking tome about it. I know that is my fault for I guess making him feel that way but if I made you feel that way and you don't tell me I never know.

Be careful how deep you look into this shallow well.

First, I did not do it to actually get answers. I really did it (at least in part) to acknowledge she should have time and space (removing pressures).

Second, even if she did feel up to giving the answers.... I do feel she would have had a tough time coming up with any, as she has not really had a clear head.

I guess I just believe people deserve a chance to make things right and people deserve to know something is wrong instead of discussing it with other people.

You may believe that, but for right now... he doesn't.

Down the road.... he may be praying for a second chance, and that will be up to you to give him one.