Dropping the rope

[woundedfool]

Well I do think something similar to that needs to be brought up. Like I said we've never really sat and talked. I just got an I'm unhappy it's over. It's a hard pill to swallow and I don't expect to ever get any answers that are genuinely the truth. I did get a lot of insight to the OW over the weekend and knowing my H I'm
Pretty sure I've figured out how everything played out.

I've been having crazy dreams lately that H has come home and I told him I couldn't forgive him. It has happened the last 3 nights I wake up feeling like it was so real!

I will be waiting a long time before I bring this up because it may be the only chance I get and I need to make sure it's right in the timing, sentiment, and word choice. Probably a few months down the road

I was a little worried if I brought this up, I might be adding a layer of complexity

It felt right in my instance (so your miles may vary).... but I did not do this to get anything off MY chest, or to get the how's/why's when's from W. I was never expecting to get a response from her (I guess, that all of a sudden after that speech, she would then open the gates to really open up and talk). I meant what I said, and was sincere about allowing her the opportunity to get what SHE needed to get off her chest.

I also did it simply to acknowledge I really did understand I had fault in our M and to validate her feelings (not that her actions were valid, rather, her perspective of our M was valid).

Also, regardless of my opinions... I would still strongly urge you to watch the MWD youtube video's.