I have been at this 8 weeks. Trying to 180 - only let him contact me, short, to the point and friendly.

But how much communication is ok? My 18 yo is registering for school, he need to cough up tuition. I found out via him this afternoon she took him off "their" co- bank account, refuses to talk to him... nor did she tell him about it...

He is angry with me, of course. I did not even know. He also told me last week he "certainly" does not need me to intervene between him and the kids (about repairing relationship.)
(I have been unbelievably neutral in talking about him/this situation with kids. Both kids think I'm CRAZY for not divorcing him... )

My SBO about this (him and kid situation) = STOP. and try NOT to fix/repair/help/manipulate/alter/control the dynamic between them. I know sometimes nothing IS something.
NOW he wants me to "encourage her to fix this." - will it only blow up in my face if I do? Stick to my SBO?

Last edited by bugsby; 06/30/14 07:45 PM.
Me: 48
H: 48
Married 26 , together 30
D1: 21
D2: 18
"Happily Married" until BD
4 weeks later: "Im talking to someone"
No papers filed.
Attempting 180, finding it difficult.