I hear you loud and clear Betsey (well, almost...I had to look up maudlin). Yes, my mantra with the interactions with her are: 'validate' (the thread on that is a lifesaver) and 'be the friend she has always wanted me to be', with a number of stipulations and clauses that I will not pursue her as the objective...(yeah...I'm still working on this one).
No gifts from me to her.
And for now mind over matter.
Organizing a large picnic with friends this weekend. It will be the first time I will be seeing most of them since W has began to tell them she is done. Not as worried about this as I may have been a few months ago but still some nervousness.
