She says I'm an amazing father, so it's like she has the father figure for the kids, and gets to be happy with her "soulmate".
You're their father... Plain and simple. Anyone else that enters their life would be a father figure. All you have to do is focus on being the best father you can be no matter what happens.
Originally Posted By: mindsin
My fear is that by remaining amicable about this situation, I am making her think this is OK. She tells me to keep up my positive attitude.
You are not making her think or feel anything, she is doing that all on her own. She is right about one thing, you do need to keep a positive attitude and keep moving your life forward. Detach, breathe and use the time you now have to make improvements to yourself.
Originally Posted By: mindsin
Am I in a totally hopeless situation here? Is she just stringing me along just to let time heal my pain and sort out logistics of our separation?
Sorry... My crystal ball is in the shop. No matter whether you D or not, the future is not hopeless. It just might be a different future than you envisioned. Work on maintaining a positive mental attitude and making your life better than it was yesterday.
Me: 43 Her: 37 D: 4 T: 20 years M: 15 years 1st Separation: 12/20/06 Drew up papers for D: 9/15/07 Reconciled: 11/1/07
