Hi all - "was never in love"

[pilot]

I would take it a step further. What you need Mat is to detach and go LRT. This means you truly need to give her the space she needs to figure things out. Part of that equation means you need to take yourself out of the equation. Right now there is nothing you can do or say to anyone including her to make her want to be with you. So that means the only answer is to not be there. She has to miss you to want you back. She has to think you are no longer available to her for her to try and WIN you back. And this is important. If you are just 'there' for her to have for free, it means nothing to her. Everything we work for has more meaning than things we are given for free. Use this time to work on yourself, and where you made mistakes in your relationship. GAL. Do your 180s. You have to become happy with yourself, otherwise no one else will be happy with you. Once you truly detach, your life will become much easier to cope with on a daily basis, and that is the point you will see her take another look at you.

In other words, I would not keep up with your mutual friends. It is a way for her to keep tabs on you and see how you are doing. You want to be mysterious to her.