write out a letter IN YOUR JOURNAL. It gets the feelings out of your head and heart but do NOT send one or show it to anyone. I wrote a longggg goodbye letter in my journal and it helped me. Basically it's just all the things you want to get out of your head, good bye to snoring, lost dreams, getting talked down to, road rage, I listed all the bad things that I wouldn't miss. I also listed things I was sad to see gone - good bye to the loving moments, the romantic times, the future dreams and goals that you shared. Have you ever seen harry potter where professor dumbledore uses his wand and takes memories out of his head and stores them in that pensieve thing (The Pensieve is an object used to review memories. It has the appearance of a shallow stone basin, into which are carved runes and strange symbols. It is filled with a silvery substance that appears to be a cloud-like liquid/gas; the collected memories of people who have siphoned their recollections into it. Memories can then be viewed from a non-participant, third-person point of view. ) Anyway, it sort of helped me to think of it that way, I use the journal as my own pensieve and store those thoughts away. It helps me to detach and I can always review them later. Helped me to sleep at night too if I wrote it down then I wasn't going over it and over it, handling it in my head with my hands sort of thing. I was able to let it go.
Me - 42 exH - 56 Married 10.5 years Together 17 bomb dropped 1/6/14 signed papers 2/4/14 H moved out 2/22/14 D final 4/4/14 Dropped the rope 5/17/14 2 cats, 2 dogs