Hurt and Confussed

[pilot]

Well while my wife is out of town I took the kids to her brothers house to swim in his pool and play with their cousins..The family has been very supportive of me and feel she is making a huge mistake. while there her cousin told me that the only hope I have is that she seems to be very sad(they all tell me this). But she also told me that W was telling her that she has some friends at work that are divorced and "fell out of love" and are telling her that they never been happier and that not to worry that she will be fine. She also mentioned things about our sex life that it was dull and that she would ask me to spicen things up and I would say no. Complete lie...I was the one that would ask her to do these things, ive been complaining for years(my wife has never been the kinky sex type) so now she is convincing herself that she wanted it and I didn't give it to her???? how much more crazy crap can she come up with...do I keep pulling away?? she says she wants to be my friend because that's how it started??? im scared if I commit to the friend crap that that's where we will stay and she will feel better about the divorce thinking im cool with it to...man this sux..don't know really how to handle this...any vets or anyone care to chime in?

Just remember she will rewrite your M history. So do not take to heart what she says about it. And yes, whether it is as work or somewhere else, there will always be someone to encourage her to get D. But it sounds as if her family is not encouraging it, so you know there is at least a counter to those work friends. At the end of the day, no friend or family member is going to convince her to stay or leave. That is up to you and how you present yourself. If you remain the same person she fell out of love with, she will leave. If you become the person only a fool would leave, well, she does not want to be a fool!

Keep up the hard work!