The next time you think it is hard to detach, think about how hard it is to take what you find out when you snoop. I can promise you one thing. The chances you have of winning your W back if you DO NOT detach are pretty darn small. The ONLY way your W is going to wake up and smell the coffee is when she realizes you are no longer there for her. She is cake eating. She can explore a R with OM and knows you are right there in case it does not work out. You are a safety net. Why not walk across the Grand Canyon on a tightrope if you have a net 2 feet under you. Take away that net while on the middle of that rope and most people will crap their pants. Detach my friend. Detach fast hard and quickly. And do it with a smile on your face (even if you have to fake it at first) Detach and show happiness. This is the missing piece to your puzzle.
Me: 42 W: 32 Married 7 years together 8.5 S1: 7 S2:7 Bomb #1: 09-16-13 Recon #1: 11/13 A discovered 04-03-2014 W filed D 05-19-14 but never served me I filed D 12-02-2014 S 05-31-14 Divorced 5-19-16
