Possilble WAW

[PeterV2]

Yeah, that's a tough one. I saw my W's car in the local mall parking lot on Sunday evening back in March when the mall was closed, so I waited. After 3 hours she pulls in with the OM and gets out of his car and into hers. She drives off and I follow the OM. When he stop at a light I pull up next to him and say, "I want to have a talk with you."
He says, "ok", and we pull into another parking lot.
We get out of our cars and I say to him, "so my W is in love with you but she's married to me. That's quite a pickle."
He says, "well she's separated from you."
"yeah but not divorced. - she's still my W you're messing with."
He says, "she's on her way."
"Did you call her?"
"No, I was on the phone with her when you pulled me over."
Just then my W pulls in and I go up to her car window.
"Are you stalking me?" she asks.
"No, I just saw your car and was wondering where you were. Then I saw OM and asked to talk to him - we're just going to talk."
She pulls into a parking spot and gets out of her car and walks over to us.
There we are the three of us in a perfectly shaped equilateral triangle, so I say, "Well here's a real triangle." We all look at each other.
She says to OM, "Leave now"
I say, "Not until I have a chat with OM."
He says, "I think we better leave."
I felt like saying, "Wow, pussy whipped already" but I didn't. I bit my tongue.
I did say to OM as he was getting in her car, "Just leave my W alone."
I drove home and then I drove to the place where she was staying. She was still in her car and as soon as I pulled and walked over to her she started to pull out. I went up to her window and said to her, "We really need to talk." She was boiling mad. But she calmed down enough to agree to talk. We went to her room and talked for an hour, heart to heart.
I told her how every time she's with him it's like ripping open the scar again, I bleed, I can't take it. She apologized for my pain.
I told her, "so you're in love with him and you love me but your not in love with me, but you're still married to me. That's quite a pickle you're in."
She agreed.
I don't think that was a very productive evening, but I think it do give her something to think about. I definitely lost brownie points that night, but I also had the opportunity to confront the ugliness of the whole situation in stark reality. I think that drove her away from me and closer to him.
But now 3 months later she says it's over with OM. I still don't trust her and my mind takes me on some wild imaginings.
Our MC seems to think that, yes, it's over with OM.
Rebuilding trust is going to take a long time.
One day at a time. I pull away. She draws close. I reciprocate but going back and moving closer to her, she withdraws. It's a strange dance, but very predictable now. I just need to keep pulled away, detached. It's so hard.
Yeah snooping does give you insight, but it depends how strong you are to withstand the stark realities it uncovers. Really hard.
Keep up the DBing and GAL. Pull back and wait.
She agreed.