Dropping the rope

[woundedfool]

I just still don't get who this person is. Was I with this manipulative liar all these years? And seriously, like your H GB, do they think we are stupid?

NO! The aliens have him!!

Just a brainstorm here:

MWD has some youtube video's (BTW, watch them all). But she has one on MLC (not suggesting your H is having one).

But watch the one on MLC.... Here is the link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WHvV55IpAxk

At the 3:23 mark, she gives a great line to give.

Do NOT run out and do this today... or ever.

Much like you sometimes have kids basketball to see H, I had a common sport with our child where I would see W. I waited for a day where she seemed talkitive/friendly/happy. I asked her if she had a moment to talk. She seemed standoff-ish, but I said I would only take a minute or two:

And I dropped a form of that speech on her. I phrased it something like:

"I wanted to tell you, since we have been separated, I have had lots of time to reflect on things. And I need to tell you, that: I understand, I understand you need to take the time to have the same reflection and experiences without me as a distraction. I want you know I am stepping out of your way to do this.

I also want you to know I have not been the perfect husband, and if you feel there is something you want to or need to tell me about how I have disappointed you, I am open to hearing it. I will not defend my positions, I will not excuse them, I will not retort to any of them and I will not judge them."

Now, only contemplate doing this IF YOU MEAN IT. Because he very well could get back to you at some point, and "air his grievances".

While giving the above speech to my W did not stop our D snowball from rolling down the hill.... I did see a touch of it get through the fog and reach her. It was the first time I saw her have any kind of emotion in a while.