I wouldn't recognize the anniversary unless she does first. It's kind of maudlin and a little bit clingy.
I'd suggest instead that you amp up your own self care. Schedule something you want to do. Or surround yourself with your most supportive friends for a night out. Go bungee jumping or try something new that you've never done before.
Then IF she texts you or calls, you can be the friend you need to be. Right?
FYI, my wedding anniversary is in September. It was 9 months after he moved out. I was pretty weepy, but I had been DBing for awhile and opted not to acknowledge it to him. But he surprised me and called me. I was more than surprised at how emotional he was. So I decided to leave my own emotion out of it and let him express his in full (since he's hardly ever inclined to emote - and back then, especially to me). It was then that I truly understood how difficult and confusing this path was for him. Our anniversary is always one that we both kind of get sad about. After 9 years being D, I often wonder why. But it doesn't really matter. It just IS.
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In addition, my (ahem) physical needs are speaking up. Without the timeline I have in mind, this would have been a very easy week to just call it a day.
Just a gentle reminder that you always have choices, DB. And if you get to the point in this process where there is no turning back, you'll know.
Any good plans for the 4th?
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
