Here's some changes and edits. This makes it more to the point and clearly spells out consequences for W.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Dear WAW,
Thank you for sharing your perspective and feelings with me. I appreciate your openness and your honesty.
I agree with you that the last few months and years have been a bit of a blur. I truly appreciate your comments with respect to me as a father. It means a lot to me to know that you feel that way, and I value knowing that you think and believe that truly.
First of all, I want to say here that I think you are a great mother to our kids. You have fully immersed yourself in their upbringing, and doted on them and taken care of our children incredibly. You made sacrifices all the time to put the children first, and myself first, and the way the children look to you is obvious. To watch you hold each of our children and see the love and care you provided and continue to provide is truly exceptional.
When you shared how you felt about your parents and your upbringing in regards to rearing the children, it made a lot of sense to me how our roles were delineated during the kids early years. How did that make you feel? I can only imagine how difficult it was for you.
Did you feel like I didn't support you enough or back you up with respect to raising our children? I would like to understand your thoughts on this better. If you would please give me some examples, that would be great so I am more self-aware of your needs in this regard. I think we have both done a great job with the kids.
I want to be clear on some things. One is that I do not want a divorce, but will not stand in your way should you choose to continue on this path. Two, I am not willing live in an open marriage with a third party.
We will not be friends should you decide to proceed with a D. Make no mistake -- if you choose to end our marriage this way, by continuing your affair with OM. It is incredibly disrespectful to me, to our marriage and our family. We will co-parent our children, and I will of course be civil and courteous, but this isn't how 'friends' treat each other.
Going forward starting now, as long as you are involved in an affair with the OM, our communication only be focused on the logistics of the children's schedules, their issues, and exchanges.
We have some decisions to make here. When you’re ready, please let me know your thoughts.
Sincerely,
Devaste
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Watch for the possibility that W will get very angry and try to draw you back in or spewing a litany of your faults, wrongs, flaws, mistakes, etc.
Stand strong! She's in an active affair and breaking up the family.
