I'm trying to control ME. I'm trying to detach. I'm working on 180s. And slowly I will be trying to GAL, this is part of it. I started the coaching program, GOD SEND. First meeting yesterday, and I was advised to write her a note for when I see her Sunday to visit the kids. It isn't asking for reconciliation, just acknowledging the hurt I've caused and my regret it took until now to recognize it.
I am not familiar with the program. I am assuming it is sponsored by your church?
You will need support getting through this. There are good people here. I hope you'll post often.
There are a lot of programs and material about marriages. Along with them come different viewpoints and advice. A newcomer can get somewhat confused at times over the differences. We follow MWD principles she teaches in Divorce Remedy, which you've read. I'm glad you have felt the board has already helped you.
You mentioned your W was tired of the co-dependency. Was she referring to you? If so, do you agree?
Do you hold down a full time job? What about her?
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Then, the night (Monday) when I said goodbye to the children she was borderline gushy, saying things like 'I know we'll be better off after this, or we won't and we'll be better together'.
By "gushy" do you mean happily excited?
It sounds as if she is definitely calling all the shots, while you follow her instructions. I am sorry you left the home. Why exactly did you? Just b/c she wanted you to leave?
The other question I have is the statement you made about respecting her boundaries. What do those particular boundaries consist of.......and does it affect you as the head of your home?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
