I wouldn't say anything to his friends. I wouldn't speak to them about the situation because you are then putting them in the middle of an uncomfortable situation, i.e., discussing the drinking, raging and craziness, especially asking or mentioning that they guide him better. It's not their position to do this and also, if you were to speak to them and your h found out, it would not bode well w/your h. We have found here that when asking others to step in and "guide/or suggest things to them, the individuals in crisis will tune them out.
Step back and allow your h to grow up. He has to learn on his own w/o your help. You are not his mother. You didn't break him, therefore, you can't fix him. Step back, give him space and allow him the time to figure things out so that he can grow up and become a mature man. Keep the focus on you and your finances for now.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
