Take it easy Dawgy. We all have days like that. And stop snooping. It only makes matters worse. Yeah if she's in that chemical love soup she's not thinking straight. You need patience because you cannot control her. You just need to be the best man you can be. Someone only a fool would leave. And you know, she may do a foolish thing and leave, but once the affair fizzles she'll be wondering what happened. Just pull away from her. I know it's totally counter-intuitive but you need to do it. It's the only thing that may work. Chasing after her will for sure drive her out the door. So do the exact opposite of chasing after her. Back off. Don't mention the OM. Don't mention the A. Be civil. Most importantly though, try to figure out what patterns of behaviour lead to her walking away. There's always a reason. I just figured out mine this weekend and it was a light bulb moment. Read my thread. And I've been working on this for over 6 months. My IC said "You did precisely the right thing for the right reasons. Well done and an indicator of genuine growth and insight into the workings of the self." I went over it again with my W this morning and she sees my point. Dawgy, it's a long way around but it's the only way. Self discipline, inner strength and perseverance is what it's going to take. You've got a great support network here with your fellow LBSs and posters. I know I couldn't have progressed as I have without them.
M: 59 W: 53 M: 9 yrs T: 14 yrs No kids together but D30(hers), S27, S24, D21(all 3 mine) W moved out 11/18/2013 D-Day 12/14/2013 W moved back home 12/1/2014
