Wife in MLC and getting ready to leave #6

[25yearsmlc]

Thank you for your insights Wonka!
I have in the past, being only human, said and done things I later came to regret. It takes guts to face up to those mistakes and shows you are a person of values to try a make amends. Easier to hide behind excuses or simply move on with your life and forget.

100% agreement with this^^. But that's also why I think the term "MLC" is useless.

Too many spouses use the term to cast attention away from themselves and to act as if some "wacky" crisis landed on their spouse. I say, Just own your part in the marital problems ---b/c you want to become the best man you can become anyhow--and b/c you don't want to be in the blame game.

We ALL say/do things we regret. Welcome to humanity!

The point of that is to grow from it. That means NOT repeating the same mistakes...and it means we improve as people. Making amends means that too.

I have heard too many people say "I made amends!!..." and then they seem to presume they are forgiven (poof!) and some of them even repeat the mistakes and then apologize. They seem to believe that words of apology compensate for actions that hurt. They do not equate.


Thanks for sharing with everyone here and the help you give us all. It's much appreciated! I hope Mrs. Wonka can see the fact that you are a better person now for having made it through your MLC.

indeed..

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