Oh I forgot...its been a month since you filed. If I were you just to protect yourself you may want to enter in a default judgement before she can file a response. At this point she can still ask for alimony if she doesn't have a sustainable income. In California that means you could end up paying her a huge sum of money for half the time you're married. She may love you but keep in mind both of you are going through all sorts of emotions that may constantly change. Don't pay 6 months from now because of how you feel today.
Its good you acknowledged her feelings. Space is a good stance right now. Piecing takes a long time....patience is a huge help. I think some veterans on here can give good advice on this as well.
