WAW separation begins

[rayzzz]

Keeping the road home paved smooth, to me, means not guilting/shaming (as Ad said above) the WAS, holding on to your scorecard and resentments, engaging in righteous indignation, and showing true forgiveness. You focus on her good qualities instead of past mistakes.

Thanks Wonka. I absolutely want to focus on "more of the same as" good stuff on WAW. Wonka and Roid76 thanks for tips with kids. This morning was the first morning of not hearing or seeing them as they woke up. saw them this afternoon and gave them this bearhug "Dad. We just saw you yesterday"...held in the tears and i think this first couple weeks will be the hardest.

Thornton; blah...I am torn...I want to be reminded of who I am fighting for (hence wedding photo on wall) but detaching gets hard sometimes too. maybe just keep on iphone i can look at every once and a while to inspire my 180. I will tell you how it goes. This is the first week of dark, thanks for encouraging me in this Thor...so i am feeling the loss and am missing her and the kids...i can't even put it into words ..like falling into a chasm .
but todays update:
WAW told me she got a huge promotion to running her own store and I know she is excited and relieved she doesn't have to share her hefty raise with me. absolutely positive this was planned out months ago so as soon as we split she would get this great new start on life. I did tell her I was proud of her though and left it at that.Cleaning our old house together I was pretty upbeat and she looked pretty dejected and tired...maybe i could've validated her then but I thought I would just let her sort whatever she was going through without me.
Going GAL to see another band tomorrow night with new friends so thats just what I need. I have seen four bands in three months which is more than I have seen in six years altogether! This is good for me.