I have an appointment with my attorney first thing in the morning. It's all pretty tactical. Among the things I need to know:

- what does the 15 year marriage threshold really mean to me (I think it means about a year and a half of extra alimony)

- do I care, since I'll hit retirement age by then, which ends alimony.

- is it worthwhile to delay filing while my W builds up her income, thereby reducing alimony, but at the same time not hitting the $250K income threshold, that kicks in more alimony.

- For tax reasons, it is worth a chunk of change for me to be married on Dec 31. I don't want to screw that up so I need to know what counter action can come from any action I take.

- now that W has an income, what is the effect of me reducing the monthly amount I give her for family food/clothing. (given that she spends a significant part of that on her own clothes)

- what am I not protecting? I know that W and posse can be very dangerous.

- the whole pre-marital asset thing. I have it pretty much figured out except for a few stocks.

- I have a financial statement now for each of us. What's the outlook?

Basically, I am plotting the curves to see how long I can let this situation run, leaving it up to W to either have an epiphany or file on her own, before I am compelled to file in my best interest.

This isn't to say I'm going to file, or not going to file, or when, it's just the mathematician/scientist in me wanting to have as much info at hand as possible in order to make a reasonable decision. (which in itself is absurd, since we're dealing with matters of the heart.) And yet, here I am, applying order to chaos. It's what I do. W would say that's part of the problem. (It's unfortunate that W didn't know me as a teenager.)

BTW, my attorney has been D'd. Based on my A&B with DW case last month (he talked my W through the marital privilege thing), he says "Run! Run fast!" I kind of disregard that since D is his business. However, I have to see if this guy will let me take him out for drinks!

So, what am I forgetting to ask attorney, while I have him "for free"?