May I ask why you decided to drop the rope? Which techniques did you try and did the results turn out the way you wanted? And, is it possible that your H didn't really want the divorce but instead was feeling lost and was looking for a motivation from you to withdraw it? But...since you dropped the rope...you gave up the fight? Forgive me, i'm just trying to understand.
I think it's so petty that people will resort to anger up to the point of destroying the very thing that means a lot to them. I suppose my idea of an ideal divorce (not that i'm condoning it) is that it's a mutual decision between the H and W and that there is no anger and bitterness. Otherwise, the anger and bitterness is really just a cover up for what's buried deep down...love.