Things are moving forward with you and W going your separate ways for now. We shall see how things will play out in the next several months.
You wrote: THIS is why, even if it didn't work, I am so upset that she refused to even try to work on the marriage.
Buddy, you need to let go with being upset for it is NOT a reflection of you or the M. It is a reflection on W. In my case, Ms. Wonka came home one day with a new book called Relationship Rescue by Dr. Phil really wanting to work on our M. My reaction? I refused to participate as I didn't think it was my problem. That is the MLC thought process. We are not the problem. We just want to get the f*ck away from you!!
It is not you.
And you mentioned that W appears not to like your GAL activities. Yep. In the MLCer mind, we are miserable which means, at the subconscious level, we want to bring you down to our level to make ourselves feel better. So when we see the LBS going out and GALing, it makes us curious and at the same time upset that you're having a grand time while we're stressed out and feeling depressed.
See the dichotomy in the MLCer? It is all on us. All of this comes down to perspective and perception.
Let. Your. Anger. Go.
W doesn't want to work on the M. So be it. Focus on you and the girls.
