One more point I should add.

H is a GINORMOUS conflict avoider. There's a decent chance that he has not reached out to me today because he is at the beach with all his family and fears that if I know I will be hurt and upset not being a part of it.

Part of me thinks maybe I should do a 180 and text him something like 'Hows the beach today? Hope you're have a great time!'


M: 42
H: 43
M: 8 years
S7 and D4
H has D19 and S25 from previous M
Bomb: 3/6/14 OW discovered, EA & PA
1st separation, 10 days, decided to reconcile & moved back in. Fail
2nd separation: 5/1/14