So in the sitch where she does leave, takes the children and gets a lawyer - what are my options? I know I can drop a letter at the school saying the kids cannot be pulled out without mutual consent. But what about other things?
Don't wait to see if it happens. Get legal advice now! You need to know your rights as a father where you live. Take necessary steps to protect yourself and your kids. Definantely tell the school of any changes. If I were you, I would call any credit companies to get your name off any charge cards she uses. Separate your money into a private account now, and have the remaing account for the household expenses. Follow your lawyer's advice in how to further protect your property.
I know this may sound a little cut-throat, but we read where it happens every day........WAW takes LBH to the cleaners!
One thing I see that H's seem to have in common is fear of making the W angry. You cannot afford to allow that fear to get a grip on you b/c it paralyzes. You have to show your confidence, strength, independence and decisiveness. These are traits in men that most women admire, but more importantly, will help you stand tall in the eyes of your children.
I believe the LBH should not act as though he is a victim who is waiting in fear to see what his W's next move may be. It will cause you to give off those vibes and not only cause more disrespect from her, but will affect you self-confidence. So I encourage you to get active in "living" a life apart from her. Do no allow her actions/attitude to hold you captive in a situation where you feel completely powerless. There is one area you have power and control....and that is "you". In the past you may have never made plans without consulting with her first. You would not have dressed up and went out while leaving her home with the kids. You need to change all that immediately.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
