He called this morning. Talking in circles about his feelings. I let him vent, for awhile.

He is obviously whacking away at my boundary (no divorce talk, period and no relationship talk until he is ready to get rid of ow/girlfriend/whatever and commit.)

He sounds very foggy (still blames me for everything. Thinks girls would be "just fine" had we told them differently.. )

I listened, and let it go. He said he wants a divorce, but wants me to "pursue" him. I begged and pleaded for a few weeks, only to get slugged back. (not physically).

One one hand, he wants me to grovel, admit it is all my fault, and feel like crap.
Then he wants to confirm his divorce talk.

At this time, he is "living" in this house, I expect him to pay the customary bills. I usually buy clothes from my budget. He says his work clothes are all ratty (OW a co worker?)
He wants to know if I will pay for clothes?

What should I do? On one hand "a deal is a deal", on the other HE CHOSE this circus, these are his monkeys.... do I cough up $$$ for new clothes?






Last edited by bugsby; 06/29/14 03:26 PM.
Me: 48
H: 48
Married 26 , together 30
D1: 21
D2: 18
"Happily Married" until BD
4 weeks later: "Im talking to someone"
No papers filed.
Attempting 180, finding it difficult.