My poor way of communicating was saying very little. Also, not hearing and acting on what she was saying to me. It was a bad point in my life and I only trying to stay above water.
You are the second person to mention the jedi mind trick to me.
We were very active together. What attracted us to each other was our work ethics, athletic activities, what we did to have fun and directions we wanted to go in life. We both were work hard, play hard mentalities. I loved the fact that we could share decision making or taking the lead in the relationship. She loved that I could make her laugh - something she says she does not want from me now. She was not controlling or submissive - she was more of an equal, a partner.
I just make my kids. That is a great thing they wrote in their father's day cards to me.
My problems started happening when everything was rough with health and work, I stopped letting her take the lead in our life and hearing what she had to say to me.
She does not want a legal separation. She wants greater space from me.
Not sure if turning the questions back to her will work. I tried that and it only aggravated her more.
