Get a D if you want but don't do it thinking it's going to heal her. I know your situation is very difficult and confusing but make your decisions based on what's best for you and your Ds.
It's OK to say, I don't want to be married to someone with a serious mental illness who can't/won't seek treatment.
Have you checked out AlAnon for you and AlAteen for your Ds? Great resource for friends and family in which alcohol is a problem.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
