Wife's mental illness and hard decision

[Lifes Twists]

Thanks SemperFi,

I have had to do some deep evaluation of the situation over the last week. My wifes mental illness is a huge issue unless she gets the help she needs. She won't even communicate with me concerning the kids. Her family continues to push her to get the divorce finalized. I have to consider that if the divorce is the focus, her fixation, she will never get an opportunity to get healthy.

I don't consider my decision to be dropping the rope. I feel her fixation on the divorce being the means to her happiness to be a road block to her getting well. I have asked my attorney to take the draft agreement my wife and I worked on, make some changes based on the present situation, and send a draft outline to her attorney. My hope is an agreement can be worked out and finalized.

I hope that with the divorce, my wife can begin to heal. She won't have it to fixate on. She will hopefully learn that happiness has to come from within. I am not giving up on her, just taking a different path than I wanted in order for her to hopefully heal.

I will continue to focus on my girls and my health. I will plan a new life for myself without my wife. I am considering getting my teaching certificate and teaching high school math. I will not seek out my wife at this point, but continue to become the person only a fool would leave. If my wife gets healthy and seeks me out, I will see where I m at that point and where life will lead me.