I mean, how did other BS deal with this image/info/picture successfully?

Is there such a thing as preparing yourself? Currently I am finding the no contact/very limited contact as a positive thing for my emotional health. I really need this time to process....

Thank you

Me: 48
H: 48
Married 26 , together 30
D1: 21
D2: 18
"Happily Married" until BD
4 weeks later: "Im talking to someone"
No papers filed.
Attempting 180, finding it difficult.